Sexual problems are surprisingly common | Real Intimacy is the key...
When sexual problems occur in a relationship, people sometimes wonder if something is wrong with them or feel someone has told them as much. I don't believe that intimacy problems mean anything is wrong with YOU. In fact, intimacy problems will affect most people at some point.
The truth
Although rarely discussed, fulfilling intimacy over the long term simply does not occur automatically like it does early on in a relationship (and in the movies), even when two people still care about each other. Why? Because creating fulfilling intimacy that lasts over time is a skill takes practice and guidance.
But you can learn to get this kind of intimacy in your relationship, and I would like to help.
Your feelings and needs matter
To me, sexual problems are not the real problem. To me, the real problem is how common it is that people settle for less than the kind of intimacy they truly want, especially when things could be much better with some support. I believe your feelings and desires matter very much, and tools to help you honor your true feelings while taking action that elicits the intimacy kind of you intimacy you want can make a huge difference for you.
Why allow yourself or relationship to settle for less when you could get the intimacy you want?
Get the kind of Intimacy you want
I will help you take even the smallest steps right now to begin connecting more deeply with your spouse/partner and with yourself. Honoring your own needs and feelings while learning how to take action to get the intimacy you want is at the heart of the process.
Must my partner attend with me for this to work?
No, the options is yours. Some of my clients prefer to work individually to gain clarity before involving the partner. They may bring their partner at a later point or not at all. On the other hand, others find that working as a couple is best for them.
I am happy to work with you individially or as a couple, whatever is best for you.
How do I start?
Take me to the "How do I get Started?" page.
Take me straight to the "Make an appointment" page.





Real Intimacy
Feels Meaningful for you * Honors your true self
* Strengthens your relationship bond *
Lori Hollander, MSW, Couples and Sex Therapist