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Lori Hollander, MSW
Licensed Couples Therapist & Sex Therapist
Ann Arbor, Michigan
Expertise in resolving Intimacy, Sexual, and Relationship problems
Individual and Couples Counseling
734.418.3363             |            328 Thompson Street, Ann Arbor, Michigan 48104       |         loriholl@umich.edu
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Types of therapy: Individual and Couples Therapy
 
Individual Sex Therapy or Couples Sex Therapy
  • Develop better sexual intimacy in your relationship
  • Resolve sexual concerns that otherwise will continue to cause problems
  • Improve sexual desire
  • Disolve tension regarding differences in desire so that you both feel fulfilled
  • Make sexual intimacy something you each look forward to, that brings you closer
 
IMAGO Couples Therapy
  • Communicate more effectively
  • Feel more connected to your partner
  • Reduce defensiveness, upset, or fighting
  • Increase understanding between between your partner and you
  • Improve emotional intimacy and feelings of love for and from your partner

 

Specialized sex therapy for medical concerns

  • Vaginismus (penetration is difficult because muscles clench unvoluntarily)
  • Dyspareunia (burning or pain during intercourse or after intercourse)
  • Get the help you need so that intimacy can finally feel good for you and your partner

 

How does Sex Therapy or Couples Therapy work?
 
First, I will ask about the problem you have and how it affects you and your relationship. Then I will want to know what change you want to see happen.
 
We will consider what your feelings, thoughts, and experiences might be telling you, and we will problem solve ways to use these insights to create the change you want.
 
Since actions have a loud "voice" in all of our relationships, we will consider how even small changes in your actions might better communicate your deeper needs within your relationship and better honor yourself, helping you to create the kind of change you want in your relationship and life. 
 
Who comes to therapy to address sexual relationship concerns?
                                                                                  
  • People who want intimacy to be more fulfilling
  • People are ready to make a change in their life and relationship
  • People who choose to take action to help their relationship rather than letting it get worse
  • People who love their partner and want to start working together rather than against each other
  • People who wonder if they have fallen out of love
  • People who wonder why they are not attracted to their partner anymore
  • People who want to access their "best self"
  • People who want to better access their loving feelings and their sexual self
  • People who are able to retain hope even in painful situations
  • People who want to empower themselves to experience the life they want 
  • People who are willing to make the first move rather than staying in gridlock with their partner
  • People who genuinely adore their partner but are just having trouble finding a way to express those feelings and want to make a change
  • People who want to learn a language to discuss their real desires
  • People who want to develop better emotional and physical intimacy
  • People who want to feel more comfortable with their sexual selves and/or sexual intimacy 
  • People who want to "spice things up"
  • People who want to feel more alive and connected in their sexual intimacy

 

 

How long does sex therapy or couples therapy last?
 
Each session lasts 50 minutes usually 1/week or every other week.
Some attend 5 -10 sessions, choosing an educational and solution focused approach.
Others choose to work over many more sessions work toward the more profound level of lifechange that they desire.
 
You know best what is right for you, so it is important to me that together we devise a plan that fits your specific needs.
 
Take me to the appointment page.

                                                  Real Intimacy...                                     
                  Feels Meaningful for you   *  Helps your true self to emerge
                             *  Strengthens your relationship bond  *


                      Lori Hollander, MSW, Licensed Sex Therapist and Couples Therapist
                                                             Ann Arbor, Michigan
734.418.3363          |        328 Thompson Street, Ann Arbor, Michigan 48104        |           loriholl@umich.edu