Get the intimacy you want...

I care about helping you get the kind of the intimacy you want in your relationship, to honor your true feelings and desires and deepen your relationship connection.

Sex problems are surprisingly common | Real Intimacy is the key...

When problems with intimacy or sex occur in a relationship, people often worry that...

• something is wrong with you or your partner  
• your partner and you are a mismatch or sexually incompatible
  
• you will need to settle if you are going to stay together

But it is not true!

To the contrary, intimacy problems will cause problems for most couples at some point, but it does not  have to be that way. You can get the intimacy you want in your relationship, and I want to help.

The truth about sexual intimacy

Although rarely discussed, good sexual chemistry for couples over the long term does not automatically occur like it does in the early phase of a relationship (and in the movies), even if both people still care about each other. Why? Because creating fulfilling intimacy that lasts over the long-term takes education, effective tools, and structure.

But you can learn to get wonderful intimacy in your relationship, and as a licensed Sex Therapist and Couples Therapist, I want to help you get the kind of intimacy you want.

Your feelings and needs matter

To me, the real problem is how common it is that couples settle for less than the kind of intimacy they truly want, especially when their intimate life could be so much better! Your feelings and needs matter very much, and I can help you get the tools, knowledge, and structure you need so that you get the kind of intimacy you really want.

How likely is it that you will benefit from working with me?

Happily, more than 90% of the individuals and couples who see me for couples therapy or sex therapy have overcome the intimacy problem they wanted to resolve.  After therapy most say they feel more connected now than they did at ANY other prior point in their relationship. 

                  Can you envision getting the kind of intimacy that makes you

                  feel alive and more deeply connected to your partner?

                  ...the kind of intimacy that makes you feel more in love with and

                  truly loved by your partner? 

                  If you can imagine it, then why let yourself settle for less?   

Finally, get the kind of Intimacy you want

I will help you take even the smallest steps right now to begin connecting more deeply with your spouse/partner so that you:

• Honor your own needs and feelings
• Feel more connected with your partner
• Make your emotional and physical intimacy the best part of your relationship
  

Must your partner attend with you for therapy to work?

No, your partner does not need to attend for therapy to help.

Individual therapy provides much benefit. Many clients prefer to work individually to get clarity and relationship tools and, if they like, often choose to include their partner for couples therapy at a later point.

Many others find that couples therapy right from the start works best for them.

How do I start?

More detail on the "How do I get Started?" page

Take me straight to the "Make an appointment" page.

Ann Arbor, Michigan offices

• Primary office located in Ann Arbor, Michigan (immediately off of Rt-23 & I-94)

• Second office at the intersection of Saline, Yspilanti, and Ann Arbor, Michigan

           (located in Washtenaw County, Michigan)

30 minutes from Ann Arbor, Michigan:

     Novi, Plymouth, Dearborn, Farmington Hills, Livonia, Brighton, Jackson,   

     and Westland, Michigan

45 minutes from Ann Arbor, Michigan:

     Birmingham, Detroit, West Bloomfield, Howell, and Southfield, Michigan

     Toledo, Ohio

Within 1 hour of:

     Royal Oak, Bloomfield Hills, Battle Creek, Flint, Lansing, and Troy, Michigan

     Windsor, Canada

Directions to Ann Arbor, Michigan office:

      3365 Wastenaw Ave, Suite 208, Ann Arbor, Michigan, 48104

Therapy License

Licensed by the state of Michigan (MI): 6801087016 Michigan

     See full credentials for Couples Therapist/Sex Therapist, Lori Hollander, MSW in Michigan