Get the intimacy you want...

I care about helping you get the kind of the intimacy you want in your relationship, the kind of intimacy that honors your true feelings and desires and deepens your relationship.

Sex problems are surprisingly common | Real Intimacy is the key...

When problems with intimacy or sex occur in a relationship, people often worry that it means...

• something is wrong with you or your partner  
• that your partner and you are a mismatch
• that you will need to settle if you are going to stay together

But it is not true!

To the contrary, intimacy problems will affect most normal couples at some point, but it does not have to be that way. You can get the intimacy you want in your relationship, and I want to help.

The truth

Although rarely discussed, fulfilling intimacy or good sexual chemistry for couples over the long term simply does not automatically occur like it does in the early phase of a relationship (and in the movies), even if both people still care about each other. Why? Because creating fulfilling intimacy that lasts in the long-term takes education, effective tools, and structure.

But you can learn to get this kind of intimacy in your relationship, and as a licensed Sex Therapist and Couples Therapist, I want to help you get the intimacy you want.

Your feelings and needs matter

To me, the real problem is how common it is that people settle for less than the kind of intimacy they truly want, especially when things could be so much better! I believe your feelings and desires matter very much, and I can help you get the tools, knowledge, and structure you need so that you can honor your true feelings and take action that gets you the kind of intimacy you want.

How likely is it that you will benefit from working with me?

Happily, more than 90% of the individuals and couples who see me for couples therapy or sex therapy have overcome the intimacy problem they wanted to resolve.  Even better, most say things are truly better now than they had ever been. 

                  Can you envision getting the kind of intimacy that makes you

                  feel alive and more deeply connected to your partner?

                  ...the kind of intimacy that makes you feel more in love with and

                  truly loved by your partner? 

                  If you can imagine it, then why let yourself settle for less?

Get the kind of Intimacy you want

I will help you take even the smallest steps right now to begin connecting more deeply with your spouse/partner and with yourself.

        At the heart of the process is:

• Honoring your own needs and feelings
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  Building a closer emotional connection with your partner
• Learning how to take action to get the intimacy you want

Must your partner attend with you for therapy to work?

No, you may attend on your own and reap much benefit from therapy. Some of my clients prefer to work individually to gain clarity and get relationship tools and often find that their partner may join the process later on while others find that moving through the process as a couple the entire time is best for them. 

How do I start?

More detail on the "How do I get Started?" page

Take me straight to the "Make an appointment" page.

Michigan offices

Primary office located in downtown Ann Arbor, Michigan

Second office at the intersection of Saline, Yspilanti, and Ann Arbor, Michigan

(located in Washtenaw County, Michigan)

Within 30 minutes of:

     Novi, Plymouth, Dearborn, Farmington Hills, Livonia, Brighton, Jackson,   

     and Westland, Michigan

Within 45 minutes of:

     Birmingham, Detroit, West Bloomfield, Howell, and Southfield, Michigan

     Toledo, Ohio

Within 1 hour of:

     Royal Oak, Bloomfield Hills, Battle Creek, Flint, Lansing, and Troy, Michigan

     Windsor, Canada

Location details

Licensure

Licensed by the state of Michigan: 6801087016 Michigan

     See Lori Hollander's full credentials

                                                  Real Intimacy

                         Feels Meaningful for you * Honors your true self

                                            * Strengthens your relationship bond *